Thursday, April 25, 2013

NIAW & My feelings about FB

This week is NIAW.. 
National Infertility Awareness Week.
I posted a link on Facebook and wrote 
a short sentence that read
"You never know what someone has been through or 
what they are currently going through...educate yourself."
That is all I could bring myself to type. 
I wanted to share our story.. 
Our whole story but every time I type it out out 
I hit delete instead of post. 
I think what I posted was enough. I want people 
to be more aware, to know that Infertility effects 
more people than many know. But I am just 
not ready to put our story out in their face. 
and for what? the likes? the sympathy that will come along with it?
I don't want their sympathy, I want them to be educated. 
Plus I have always pictured 
posting a video of our journey with a happy ending. 
that will show what we've been there and where we've 
ended up. I pray everyday that I can make that video soon.  
About 2 months ago I was ready to deactivate my account. 
I was just sick of seeing some of the posts 
and I knew some of those people were just there 
to see how much better or worse I was doing in life than them. 
But instead of deactivating my account. 
I went on a deleting spree :) 
It felt good! By the end of my clicking 
I was 147 "friends" lighter! 
I am trying my best to turn it into a place where I see my family 
my close friends and my blogging buddies! 
What about you? How do you feel about Facebook?
Have you shared your story? Have you ever went on a deleting spree?



13 comments:

  1. I was just thinking about you this morning! I hope you're 100% recovered at this point! I haven't come out on facebook. I keep thinking about it though. I pray you can make your video soon, too. Sending tons of good cycle dust your way. XOXOXO

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  2. I think what you posted on fb was perfect. Simple yet informative. Well as you know I deleted my FB account last year because too much was getting to me on there. Now I feel a lot less stress and I don't miss FB one bit! I hope you get some good responses from your post!

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  3. I feel very similarly to you about facebook; it feels like competative social oneupsmanship a lot of the time, and it's not always the easiest place to share serious, real life problems. And no, 32 'likes' are not the same thing as 32 people actually educated to be more aware and sensitive to the realities of ALI. For a lot of these reasons, I deleted my acocunt after my second loss, and haven't looked back since!

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  4. I was there at one point Alexis! It's so hard! You are an amazing girl and I pray DAILY for you to get your miracle! I just know deep down you will. You are the most positive uplifting person! I am so grateful to have found your blog and hopefully one day we can actually meet :)

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  5. I really need to do a cleaning spree as well, mostly for the obnoxious posts (10 a day about saving animals? yes, I agree with the cause but please don't suffocate your friends' news feeds with it!) or yes, the pregnant girl I knew from highschool (that I haven't spoken to in YEARS) that makes every.single.post. pregnancy related...

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  6. I deleted my account a few months ago... It was getting way to dramatic and honestly I miss seeing my out of state families pictures and hearing the stories but in the end I am so glad I did... It was just way too much drama for this lady.

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  7. I don't put a lot on facebook anymore. I think I realized exactly what you said in your NIAW status update... you never know what people are going through or have been through. It really makes you think about what you are posting... I think what you posted is absolutely spot on.

    I think deleting sprees are totally needed. It is amazing how much people can bring you down. At one point, I deactivated my account but then went back on. I probably should deactivate for sure. I have a lot of acquaintances that drive me nuts.

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  8. Cleaning up sprees are good...it's been a while since I've done one. After reading your post, I'll probably do that this weekend. I've thought about getting off of FB b/c I do find myself checking it when I should really be paying attention to other things (like driving) & living in the moment of what's going on right in front of me. (Not proud of this, but it is true.) I find seeing the pictures of friends/their kids fun & cute but I am a bit sick of the advertisements and also seeing all the "shares" for quote pages, etc. As a small business owner though, I do think there is some positive things with having a FB page...it helps you stay in contact with potential clients, etc.

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  9. Good for you! Even if it's not your whole story, it's enough to open people's eyes a little.

    Facebook is a double-edged sword. I love being able to see what's going on with my family and close friends, but at the same time, certain posts are like being punched in the gut. I used to be much more active on it than I am now, but I'm not ready to deactivate just yet. I think it's coming, though.

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  10. I have not shared my story. Only the people that I am closest to know what we are going thru. It is a pretty private subject and I don't think my husband wants it out there, so I don't say much. Facebook is pretty annoying these days. I get so upset about others pregnancy announcements and pictures of their pregnancy. I don't think I will delete people, but I will be hiding them soon! :)

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  11. I have a love/hate relationship with fb at times. I shared our story (via my blog) on fb from the start...I was poopin' my pants when I pressed the "share" button but am glad I did it. It felt liberating and wonderful after the fact. I completely understand and respect not sharing such personal stuff too. It's gotta feel right.
    I've been thinking about you so much this weekend...I hope you are feeling well and relaxing, my friend. Always praying for you!! Hope you and Scott have a sweet Sunday! Xoxox

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  12. I think what you posted is awesome, I have never been strong enough to even share an awareness post on FB. I do remember when I had my loss that a friend from college had just posted about having a loss on FB and I remember it really comforted me to know that I wasn't alone and I reached out to her before finding the MC/PL and TTCAL boards. I hope you are able to make the video soon.

    I also wanted to say that I love your new blog header, it is beautiful!

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  13. I love this! And you are so right, it's more important for us to be educated :) I pray for you everyday! I can't wait to watch that video :) It will happen SO soon!
    I definitely prefer facebook over twitter. But instagram is my favorite, ha!

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